Recovery from Hate

Hate is a drug.

Hate is so addictive nothing else matters.

We cannot see our addiction or acknowledge it.

We do not understand we have a problem nor that we are addicted.

Hate becomes more important to us than family or job or sanity or God.

We need a twelve step program, but we must first acknowledge we have a problem.

The first three steps are as follows:

We admit we were powerless over hate–that our lives had become unmanageable.

We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

After we acknowledge we have a problem, it becomes easier to see how powerless we are over hate. It is a powerful moment to see how unmanageable our daily decisions are when ruled by hate. It is a snowball effect. Once we hate in a small way, we begin to hate in large ways, and hate starts to overcome love and compassion. Hate rules our thoughts, our hearts, our lives.

As we regard our powerlessness to release the hate, we believe a Power greater than ourselves can restore our sanity, can turn our hearts of stone into hearts of love again. We must surrender whatever control and power we think we have to turn our lives around and give it up to God because holding onto hate is insanity.

I will give you a new heart—I will give you new and right desires—and put a new spirit within you. I will take out your stony hearts of hate and give you new hearts of love. (Ezekiel 36:26)

When we finally decide to turn our will over to God, we allow Him to transform our hearts and minds. We allow Him to take our hand and walk with us, (or carry us when we cannot walk) and ensure our burden becomes light. He takes on our worries. He lets us know our world will not be trouble-free, but that He will be always with us on the journey.

He teaches us to breathe when life seems overwhelming, and reminds us that He creates everyone as equal human beings – all His children, whom He loves equally.

As we work our way through these steps, we ready ourselves to take on the next step and the next. We are strengthened by our surrender.

If anyone thinks they may suffer from the addiction of hate, please visit the 12-step Program site at the Addiction Center to see the subsequent steps for recovery and other related information.

Credit: Susan Irene Fox;